Couples Therapy: When Things Feel “Fine” — But Don’t

Updated: May 16

Most couples don’t seek therapy after a single crisis.

They come because something got lost along the way.

It may not be visible from the outside — but on the inside, it hurts.

It might be the same argument that keeps coming back.

Or the growing silence that feels harder to bridge each time.

Sometimes, one partner has already given up, while the other is still trying.

Sometimes, the home is intact — children, routine, even love — and yet there’s loneliness.

Couples therapy is not about assigning blame or declaring who’s “right.”

It’s a safe space to pause, speak openly, and understand what’s actually going on between you.

What’s getting in the way.

What’s not being said.

And whether — and how — something can be rebuilt.

When to consider therapy:

When silence becomes the default, not the exception
When every conversation ends in conflict — or in one of you shutting down
When one partner feels emotionally alone in the relationship
When separation is on the table, but you’re not ready to decide
After challenging periods — reserve duty, grief, personal or spiritual crisis — when the relationship hasn’t returned to balance

Therapy won’t “fix” you.

But it can help you see each other more clearly — and make choices from a calmer, more grounded place.

My name is Elisheva.

I’m a certified couples and family therapist, and a psychologist with over 10 years of clinical experience.

I’ve worked with hundreds of couples — secular and religious, immigrants and native-born Israelis, veterans and civilians.

Each couple brings their own story. My role is to listen, to hold space, and to help you see the fuller picture.

In Jerusalem or online
In English, Hebrew, or Russian
Recognized for partial reimbursement through Misrad HaBitachon (Ministry of Defense), for those eligible

No slogans. No quick promises.

Just professional, compassionate support — with heart, clarity, and care.

Sometimes, one honest conversation is enough to begin seeing things differently.

If you feel it’s time to take a closer look at your relationship — I’m here.